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Insults Amongst Friends: Why We Do It

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

A group of my male friends and I get together about once a month to play a little poker. Because my wife and I did some traveling last winter, I happened to miss a couple of these fun events. Upon my return, I was notified of when the next poker night would occur. As I arrived, one of my buddies, noticing my entrance, cried out,…

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On Brooklyn Wisdom for Responding to Insults

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

When his father lost his job because of a serious illness, John qualified for a free lunch pass at school.  The first time John showed the cashier at the school’s lunch line his pass, Fred, a husky boy standing behind John, started to laugh and cry out to others, “Hey guys, get a load of this! John has a free lunch pass. What’s the matter, John,…

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Insults Amongst Friends

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

A few months ago I was going to be a guest on the “Anger 911” radio show. The host of the show, Janet Pfeiffer, is an expert on anger and a TV personality, appearing on such networks as “Fox News,” “CNN,”  “ABC News,” “CBS News,” “Lifetime,” and “The 700 Club.” Since my interview was coming up, I began to think about what I might say. As…

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Bob Dylan On Happiness

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

Today we’re going to take a look at that treasure of an emotion, happiness. Although I’ve written on this this topic twice before (see “The Desire for Happiness” and “Hope and Happiness as Emotions)” there remains much left to be said. The topic of happiness is relevant to insults and respect in a variety of ways. For example, if you tell people that your goal…

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Special Education Name Calling: Is It Time to Put a Stop to It?

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

Today, every child is entitled to a free appropriate public education.  If someone, such as an educator or parent, becomes concerned about a child’s progress at school, he or she is obligated to refer the child to the Committee on Special Education (CSE). The CSE is made up of a multidisciplinary team, the parent, and, if parents want to bring in other people for advice,…

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Hope and Happiness as Emotions

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

“What’s happening, Josh?” asks Bob. “Well, I decided to ask Julie out on a date. Oh, how I’m hoping she’ll say yes! My mind keeps going over and over what I should say when I ask her.” Two hours later. “Hi Bob.  I just got off the phone with Julie. She said yes!  We’re going out on Saturday.  I’m so happy!” “Nice!” Bob replies. “You…

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Bob Dylan On Tears

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

I have discussed the topic of crying and how it relates to how much respect a person might have for the crier in several earlier posts (see here and here). In those earlier posts we looked into the following questions: If I cry when criticized, does that mean I should view myself as acting like a baby? Is it right to view someone who cries…

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Psychiatric Name Calling: What Do People Say About It?

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

In recent weeks, I have been providing a series of blog posts on psychiatric name calling (see here, here, here, and here).  In these posts, I have expressed some negative opinions about the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). The DSM provides the names for the various mental health concerns that mental health service providers are often required to use if they want to…

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Bob Dylan On Fools

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

Bob Dylan begins his Theme Time Radio Hour show about fools, with a beautiful instrumental version of “Why Do Fools Fall In Love.” After a few bars of this tune, it continues in the background as Bob begins to speak: James Thurber once said, “You can fool too many of the people too much of the time,” and for the next hour we’re going to…

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On Being Respected

by Dr. Jeffrey Rubin

How does someone learn how to become a person people respect? Arguably, the best way to develop a deep understanding of this is through stories that depict characters that, as they mature, grow into individuals that have the set of characteristics that people highly respect. In the Cool Steve Stories, a coming-of-age trilogy of a boy growing up in Brooklyn, I have attempted to provide…

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